Hmmmmm. To stretch or not to stretch.

[moonlite_tryst]

In most NC-17 slash fics I have read (that are not non-con) there is usually an element of preparation in the form of stretching the anus by hand or by spell, before the fucking begins.

After having watched 42 hours of QAF (US series 1 and 2) I have yet to see anything resembling that taking place, and I don't mean close shots of Brian with his fingers up Justin's arse. All fucking on the show (so far seen) consists of some fore play - kissing, sucking of nipples or cock, then condom on and straight in. Lube rarely puts in an appearance.

I can't help but wonder how painful it is to be penetrated without prior preparation.

Comments

[moonflower-rose.livejournal.com]

lol - nope. Not a hint of it.

But, I suppose it could be argued that I just like it a bit rough? And I'm not usually tense about it at all - that certainly helps. Just being relaxed makes a world of difference.

I do find I ache, but...I like the ache. lol.

[moonlite-tryst.livejournal.com]

Just goes to show how we all differ. I only know one person in RL who has had anal sex - well it's not a subject that easily fits into convrsation, she was not prepped and had a terrible time. In fact, she blacked out from the pain.

[moonflower-rose.livejournal.com]

Bloody hell!

Well, its not something I do on a regular basis - not daily, not weekly, not even fortnightly. So I can't claim I've become loose or permanently stretched or anything. I suppose every persons pain threshold differs, again theres the whole thing abot being nervous and tense in that area, there's the issue of having a considerate partner who isnt going to just ram you senseless (unless thats what you want...) The first time I ever tried it, I didnt like it all too much. Neither of us knew what we were doing, and it did hurt some, but not enough to make me black out or cry or bleed much. I felt uncomfortable for a week or so.

I am lucky enough to have several real life friends who have tried and/or liked buttsex, and it comes up in conversation fairly regularly (usually at the pub). Actually, on my journal it comes up quite often, and I even have a specific filter (The Ass Filter) and a tag for easy reference.

[moonlite-tryst.livejournal.com]

The Ass Filter

Sounds very organised of you. I shall have to pretend I'm sitting with you in a virtual pub, because I cannot think who I'd have a conversation like this with in RL.

[moonflower-rose.livejournal.com]

hehehe. Please feel free to friend and join the ass filter at any time, lol.