Hmmmmm. To stretch or not to stretch.

[moonlite_tryst]

In most NC-17 slash fics I have read (that are not non-con) there is usually an element of preparation in the form of stretching the anus by hand or by spell, before the fucking begins.

After having watched 42 hours of QAF (US series 1 and 2) I have yet to see anything resembling that taking place, and I don't mean close shots of Brian with his fingers up Justin's arse. All fucking on the show (so far seen) consists of some fore play - kissing, sucking of nipples or cock, then condom on and straight in. Lube rarely puts in an appearance.

I can't help but wonder how painful it is to be penetrated without prior preparation.

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[auntbijou.livejournal.com]

Um... in a word... very painful, unless you are just so...forget that. It ain't pretty. Being stretched, or rimmed, and lubed (and spit just doesn't really do it, you know? I don't know why folks keep saying it's great in fics, because the reality is sadly lacking) is de rigeur. That is, if one is planning to ENJOY the experience. If you want your partner to scream, cry, complain, bleed, and flail while either cussing you out or begging for someone, anyone, to kill them and put them out of their misery, the forgo the preparation.

What you see in QaF is very closely related to a phenomenon seen in animated features that I like to call "Cartoon Physics." Cartoon Physics has very little relation to Real Physics. I mean, we know that in the real world, if a plane that is plummeting toward the earth runs out of fuel during the process, it won't stop just shy of the ground. However, in Cartoon Physics, that's a very common occurrence. This also applies to TV series and movies. Especially as regards to sex. (that or it proves that even gay men have no idea what foreplay is!)

[moonlite-tryst.livejournal.com]

My friend certainly didn't enjoy it. She passed out, apparently. QAF is the most realistic gay sex I've ever seen on TV so I was surprised in one scene, after Justin's attack, that Brian had attempted entry with no prep. I have yet to pluck up the courage to hire gay porn.

[auntbijou.livejournal.com]

*I have yet to pluck up the courage to hire gay porn*

(laughs merrily) I know what you mean!

I think though, the main factor in buttsex 101 (snorts and shakes her head) is trust. You know? You're in the mood for it, and you trust your partner, you know he's not going to hurt you, you're relaxed, and that makes everything so much easier. I will admit, there have been times the Husbandly One has just slid right in without prep, but... we've been together 16 years and I trust him implicitly. There have been times when I've been tense, or not really into it, and he couldn't get in with a crowbar, you know what I mean? He could be slicked up to the point of sliding out of bed and not be able to get in!

I haven't seen that scene yet (I've only seen QaF in bits and pieces, sob!) but I imagine Justin's trust in Brian made it possible (?!). Dunno, 'cause I haven't seen that one yet. Hmmmm, the kids start school next week... maybe now is the time to rent those DVDs and start watching the WHOLE THING AT ONE SITTING!! (Auntie gets excited and falls off chair) Woops!

[moonlite-tryst.livejournal.com]

With ML, it's more a case of him not wanting to hurt me rather than a flat out no. I'll keep working on him.

rent those DVD's

I think that's an excellent idea. :0)

I'm really lucky that a friend sent me a boxed set with all 5 series. I've managed series 1 and 2 over the last week. Now I'm going to start series 3.

[auntbijou.livejournal.com]

You know, my husband and I did the dancing around the bush bit for two or three years after we were married, talking about it, but in the almost but not quite liking it sense, each of us trying to feel out how the other felt about it. He didn't want to if I didn't want to, and vice versa. It's funny now, but we were still learning each other and building trust. When we finally stopped the bush circling and just came right out and said it, well, it was pretty darned funny, and laughing about it was relaxing.

I guess what I'm saying is there has to be trust and reassurance on both sides. Lots of communication. And moving veeeerrrry slowly!

I envy you, having all five seasons. I suppose if I was totally desperate, I could borrow it from my brother-in-law, if he would part with it, but it would depend on which version... knowing Ger, he'd keep his mitts on the BBC version and send me the HBO version (which I wouldn't mind, too terribly). It can be awfully convenient having a gay brother-in-law, sometimes! (laughs merrily)

[moonlite-tryst.livejournal.com]

I only saw a couple of snippets of the Channel 4 original. I hadn't seen 'the light' at that point.